When I was talking to my girlfriend she said she had something to talk to me about but was a little embarrassed. When I make a friend request on Facebook it’s amazing how much anxiety I feel over whether they will confirm me as a friend or not. I wait with such anxious thoughts….what if they just ignore it…what if they don’t even want to be my friend? What if they don’t think I’m worthy enough? And if they do accept and see that I only have 50-60 friends do I look like a failure because they might have 200, 300, 400?” These are not just passing thoughts, but something that she dwells on and consumes her. She confessed that when she gets herself all worked up she thinks she’s having an anxiety attack. If I don’t hear back from the person for days I can’t seem to let it go. The more I think about it, I can feel my heart beating faster, my hands get all sweaty, I feel so jittery and light headed that I have to sit down. The worst part is that I don’t know how to calm myself down.
Why do we constantly compare ourselves to others and put so much emphasis in trying to be perfect and successful. Why do we feel such a desperate need to be approved or accepted by other people?
While each of us needs to practice our own self-love and acceptance there’s no doubt that fear and self esteem issues are at the root, but these irrational thoughts would come at her so fast that it was impossible for her to stop the feelings and sensations….because she didn`t have the tools to know how.
Barry Joe McDonaugh`s Panic Away Program has been extremely helpful for her. She has practiced his One Move Technique for several months now and with all the useful, practical information he has provided in his Panic Away Program she can now stop these thoughts when they come into her mind so that she doesn`t experience the full blown panic attacks any longer!
It has given her a sense of confidence because she is back in control of her thoughts and she is no longer obsessed with people’s approval. After she went through the program she knew it was worth the effort, the mind is so powerful and it’s a battle to overcome anxiety but she did it!
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