Going up to women can be 1 of the hardest things to do. As guys, once we are out in the playing field we get what has been known as approach anxiety simply when we notice a chick we’d want to say hi to. This happens to be physiological response that may often tell your mind “you do not want to do this” This sense will cripple you if you do not realize how to combat it.
Did approach anxiety ever happened to you? This even occurs to top pick up artists.
You notice a chick you want to say hi to. You begin to take your 1st step her direction & immediately you begin analyzing the ways that it can fail as well as the ways you could be denied. This brings up the churning feeling in the pit of your stomach that lets you physically know you are scared. Instead of welcoming the fear you opt to salvage your pride and not say hi. To top it off, you reback rationalize your decision saying to yourself “she has a boyfriend” or “I’ll approach the next one”.
While debating over approaching you are accessing the rational, neo cortical section of the brain which triggers an emotional response. You’ve got to learn to shut down the rational setion of your brain simply for a brief second. That brief second should buy you some time to put your feet in motion in the direction of the woman without going over the consequences.
The method in which this happens to be done is due to adhering to the three second rule, created by these pick up artists, which states that you have to approach the chick you wish to say hi to within in the 1st three seconds of seeing her. When you do this, you are living in the moment & bypassing your rational thinking process. And, allowing you to move without debating until you are already talking to the group.
I went to a restaurant with some girlfriends a few nights ago whom I’d met through my anxiety support group. One of them brought another friend whom I was just meeting for the first time. She had suffered with anxiety as well. The very first thing I noticed about her was how confident she looked when she walked into the room, I instantly wanted whatever she had that gave her such confidence!. I wanted to ask her if the Panic Away Program helped her to become so confident? By the end of the evening I finally was brave enough to ask what her secret was. She giggled and said I wouldn’t believe it but less than a year earlier she was a completely different girl. This is what she told me:
After being laid off from her job of 5 years she began to feel overwhelmed with anxiety and was not able to find another job. She said her anxiety became so intense that it began to affect every single area of her life! Eventually it came to the point where she thought she would never be able to experience any relief.. Her self esteem dropped even more when she lost her job, she had always been more of a nervous, quiet and reserved type but now she was isolating herself from family and friends. She covered up her pain by eating and gained 50lbs! She cried every time she looked in the mirror.
She felt so embarrassed and ashamed of her anxiety attacks, she wouldn’t tell anybody about them and she didn’t know how to make it better . She still felt no relief even after trying a few herbal treatments. She woudn’t take the medication her doctor suggested even though she felt desperate. As more time passed the attacks got worse and she couldn’t bear when the next one would occur.
Her mother finally approached her after noticing how stressed and overwhelmed she seemed, she said she wanted to talk to her about ‘anxiety’ and had been doing a lot of research. As soon as she said the word anxiety she burst into tears, but a part of her was glad it was finally out in the open. She said she came across an anxiety program that she thought could really help – and that’s when she told her about Barry Joe McDonagh’s Panic Away Program.
That was 10 months ago….now she’s lost the 50lbs and she’s won the battle against anxiety! When she starts to feel the odd bout of anxiety she is now able to handle it calmly and it quickly dissipates when she applies the things that she learned through the Panic Away Program. And as an added bonus she has gained a whole new self-acceptance and self confidence!
She is now so passionate about helping other people with their anxiety attacks through support and encouragement. She said if she can do it anybody can! As an added bonus her confidence has soared to new heights and she loves being back to her care-free self!
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