When I was talking to my girlfriend she said she had something to talk to me about but was a little embarrassed. When I make a friend request on Facebook it’s amazing how much anxiety I feel over whether they will confirm me as a friend or not. I wait with such anxious thoughts….what if they just ignore it…what if they don’t even want to be my friend? What if they don’t think I’m worthy enough? And if they do accept and see that I only have 50-60 friends do I look like a failure because they might have 200, 300, 400?” These are not just passing thoughts, but something that she dwells on and consumes her. She confessed that when she gets herself all worked up she thinks she’s having an anxiety attack. If I don’t hear back from the person for days I can’t seem to let it go. The more I think about it, I can feel my heart beating faster, my hands get all sweaty, I feel so jittery and light headed that I have to sit down. The worst part is that I don’t know how to calm myself down.
Why do we constantly compare ourselves to others and put so much emphasis in trying to be perfect and successful. Why do we feel such a desperate need to be approved or accepted by other people?
While each of us needs to practice our own self-love and acceptance there’s no doubt that fear and self esteem issues are at the root, but these irrational thoughts would come at her so fast that it was impossible for her to stop the feelings and sensations….because she didn`t have the tools to know how.
Barry Joe McDonaugh`s Panic Away Program has been extremely helpful for her. She has practiced his One Move Technique for several months now and with all the useful, practical information he has provided in his Panic Away Program she can now stop these thoughts when they come into her mind so that she doesn`t experience the full blown panic attacks any longer!
It has given her a sense of confidence because she is back in control of her thoughts and she is no longer obsessed with people’s approval. After she went through the program she knew it was worth the effort, the mind is so powerful and it’s a battle to overcome anxiety but she did it!
Entering or I should say re-entering the dating field isn’t easy, especially when your a single mom. Experiencing date anxiety is not uncommon but it can be very scary, then I heard that Panic Away had a One Move Technique that is really suppose to help you calm down.
I always dread the “first date” because I always feel stricken with panic. Will he even want a 2nd date? Will he meet my expectations? Will a guy want to date me with kids? Will he really learn to love and care for my children? When should the kids meet him? Will the kids like him? Does he have kids? Will everyone like each other? And do I even have the time to date? Or what if I never find somebody? The list goes on and on. All of these thoughts can make me feel extremely anxious and insecure.
When I’m faced with my first date, my heart starts beating fast, I feel light headed, I stutter on every word, one anxious thought turns to another and I find it hard to breath. My hands get so sweaty and I know my voice is trembling with each and every word, there have even been times where I’ve even had to excuse myself and quickly exit to the washroom to try and calm myself down which never seems to work. I thought with the more dates I had it would eventually get easier, but it hasn’t. These panic attacks are exhausting and leave me feel helpless and lonely. I’ve even avoided going on some dates at all because I’ve felt so sick to my stomach.
My friends have noticed it’s beyond just being nervous and are concerned about my anxiety attacks.
I’m so tired of feeling this way and now I’m at a point where I really want to get help. I want to appear much more relaxed on my dates and not worry so much about the “big” picture but just take it one step at a time and have fun. I took a leap of faith and began Panic Away, I’m so excited now that I’ve started. I am hopeful that I can beat this anxiety and I am confident that when I’m finished I can experience a good time on dates again.
I know that I’m doing the right thing by confronting the fear and I am confident that I will no longer suffer from anxiety and dating.
I had dinner with a male friend the other night and he opened up to me about the anxiety he was facing. More women seem to experience anxiety but men certainly do too. On the surface he appears as a very successful salesman but inside he suffers from a ton of anxiety. Now a single father of three girls, his job entails a ton of pressure and he constantly pushes himself to be more and more successful. I understand that men have a lot of pressure to bring home the bacon whether for themselves or their family but when he confided in me that he suffers panic attacks when at home by himself I really wanted to help him.
He now has the girls 50% of the time and hates that his family is broken apart. It’s difficult being a single parent but he tries his very best to give the girls stabilty, laughter and fun. When he doesn’t have the girls he is working hard trying to meet his quota. He hates that his self esteem takes a dive if his numbers are down at work. He constantly measures his value by how much he sells. When sales are up he’s really happy but when sales are down he’s down too. Just looking at him he appears very confident, happy and handsome. He has numerous friends, does a lot of charity work, is at all the social events and has a beautiful house. But he admitted those quiet nights at home can be terrifying. The thoughts that swirl around his head are “what if I lose it all?” He came from a very poor upbringing and worked hard to be where he is but with sales it’s never a sure thing. To him losing it all sends him into a state of frenzy. He feels sick to his stomach and gets so wound up that he told me on several occasions he has literally trembled with crazy thoughts going through his mind like “what if I die?”
I introduced the Panic Away program to my friend and I have to admit he was a little hesitant. Although he told me he wanted to deal with it by himself, he couldn’t answer when I asked him if he’s done anything to try and conquer his anxiety . I reassured him that Barry Joe McDonaugh’s Panic Away program has helped many, many people and to just give it a try. He has agreed to deal with it and will take the steps to do so, he’s tired of suffering with the anxiety attacks and has realized he doesn’t have to just live with it – Terrific!
Over the weekend the following situation arose and I’m going to tell you how Panic Away helped. I had gone in last week to see the doctor because of severe pain in my upper stomach that was going all the way through to my back. It was very painful even taking a breath in, for days I could barely move. It was an overwhelming pain that I’ve never had before and I was very nervous about it. My doctor sent me for several tests including blood work, an ECG and an X-ray, he said that he wanted to rule out any blood clots, tumors or walking pneumonia.
After I had the tests, the doctor’s office called while I was fast asleep on the couch and I missed their call. I checked my voice mail that evening and heard a message saying, “Kirsten please call the doctor’s office.” I immediately grew anxious and very concerned, my doctor knew I was already coming in on Monday so why the call on Friday afternoon! Now I had to wait over the weekend! They must have found something I thought to myself and now I was very alarmed!
Horrible thoughts started to swirl around my head, I made up several worst-case scenarios in my mind and then I realized that I was heading down the slippery slope of an anxiety attack. I immediately asked myself what I was scared of and I confronted the fear head on…not an easy thing to do but it worked! I applied Panic Away’s One Move Technique™ and could instantly feel myself gaining back control and calming down. Being able to relax, I was able to have a restful sleep. For the rest of the weekend, whenever I felt the anxious thoughts creep up on me….and they did, I quickly applied the One Move Technique™ , it takes only seconds to implement wherever you are, and it returned me to my normal self. This same situation years earlier would have left me in such a panicked state I would have called all my girlfriends trembling with fear and unable to sleep at all.
I am so thankful for the Panic Away program and all the wonderful things it has taught me. Just coping with anxiety is not good enough. The Panic Away program teaches you how to free yourself from EVER having another panic attack. You will never fear having another panic attack again if you can break the cycle of fear with this amazing tool.
I went to a restaurant with some girlfriends a few nights ago whom I’d met through my anxiety support group. One of them brought another friend whom I was just meeting for the first time. She had suffered with anxiety as well. The very first thing I noticed about her was how confident she looked when she walked into the room, I instantly wanted whatever she had that gave her such confidence!. I wanted to ask her if the Panic Away Program helped her to become so confident? By the end of the evening I finally was brave enough to ask what her secret was. She giggled and said I wouldn’t believe it but less than a year earlier she was a completely different girl. This is what she told me:
After being laid off from her job of 5 years she began to feel overwhelmed with anxiety and was not able to find another job. She said her anxiety became so intense that it began to affect every single area of her life! Eventually it came to the point where she thought she would never be able to experience any relief.. Her self esteem dropped even more when she lost her job, she had always been more of a nervous, quiet and reserved type but now she was isolating herself from family and friends. She covered up her pain by eating and gained 50lbs! She cried every time she looked in the mirror.
She felt so embarrassed and ashamed of her anxiety attacks, she wouldn’t tell anybody about them and she didn’t know how to make it better . She still felt no relief even after trying a few herbal treatments. She woudn’t take the medication her doctor suggested even though she felt desperate. As more time passed the attacks got worse and she couldn’t bear when the next one would occur.
Her mother finally approached her after noticing how stressed and overwhelmed she seemed, she said she wanted to talk to her about ‘anxiety’ and had been doing a lot of research. As soon as she said the word anxiety she burst into tears, but a part of her was glad it was finally out in the open. She said she came across an anxiety program that she thought could really help – and that’s when she told her about Barry Joe McDonagh’s Panic Away Program.
That was 10 months ago….now she’s lost the 50lbs and she’s won the battle against anxiety! When she starts to feel the odd bout of anxiety she is now able to handle it calmly and it quickly dissipates when she applies the things that she learned through the Panic Away Program. And as an added bonus she has gained a whole new self-acceptance and self confidence!
She is now so passionate about helping other people with their anxiety attacks through support and encouragement. She said if she can do it anybody can! As an added bonus her confidence has soared to new heights and she loves being back to her care-free self!
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